No matter how you put, saying “No” does break the cycle.
It means that the first reaction when you say “No” is resistance.
Now, what is magical is the after effect of saying “No”: it creates respect!
Respect for yourself and respect from others!
Why is that?
Because when you say “No”, you use extra power.
The natural reaction to extra power is respect.
It is simple and almost magical.
Before you please others, discover how to please yourself.
You educate your environment on how to best work with you.